The Doula/Dad Relationship

One of the most frequently asked questions is - does a doula replace the Dad's position in labor?
My answer - Absolutely not! So I wanted to take a moment to explain the differing roles of a dad and a doula.
1. Doula's have experience and training that tells them what the mom needs. They will recognize when it's time for a new position or time for new breathing techniques. Rather than taking over and butting dad out, the doula shows dad what and to do and ensures that he is doing it effectively.If dad is uncomfortable, then doula is more than happy to take over that specific aspect (like the hip squeeze) just when mom wants that move.
2. Doula's provide relief for a Dad who is helping the mom progress. When dad's hands get tired, doula is right there to step in. She understands that closeness is vital for most women in labor and preserves that relationship with dad above all else, and is quietly there to support during that time. Then, if dad needs a break, doula is there to fill in the gaps. Let dad sleep a bit or grab a bit to eat and then come back refreshed and ready for the long-haul.
3. Doula's know many massage/acupressure/relaxation techniques that she can teach dad so that he can not only be there, but be effective while he is in that support role. Or if dad would rather, he can be talking to and with mom and supporting her other ways while the doula supports mom physically.

I see a doula as a support of the birthing couple, not just the mother. If she is good, she will only empower the couple and encourage them together!

 I found this blog post incredibly informative. It is a dad writing about his birth experience with their doula. Check it out! http://bringbirthhome.com/bbh-dad/dad-doula-relationship/